So You’re Engaged… Now What? A Wedding Planner’s Guide to Staying Sane
- Jean Rivers
- Apr 3
- 2 min read
Updated: Apr 4
Freak Out (It’s Okay, We All Do It)First things first—scream, cry, pop champagne, call your mom, and post that ring pic before your cousin beats you to it with a “Congratulations!!!” on Facebook.
Brace Yourself for the QuestionsWithin 24 hours, you will hear the following questions approximately 987 times:
“When’s the wedding?!” (As if you’ve magically planned it overnight.)
“Am I invited?” (From someone you haven’t spoken to since 2017.)
“Can I bring a plus-one?” (Your single coworker is already calculating how this could work in their favor.)
Breathe and Don’t Book Anything YetI know it’s tempting to go on Pinterest and start panic-booking the first venue that looks nice or putting down a deposit for the llama rental because "I saw it in a wedding once!" But slow down. Take time to discuss your vision, budget, and—most importantly—how much patience you have for seating chart arguments.
Call in Reinforcements (AKA, Hire a Wedding Planner)You wouldn’t DIY your own root canal, so why attempt to single-handedly plan the most logistically complex party of your life? A wedding planner (hi, it’s me!) will keep you from signing contracts with questionable vendors and remind you that, no, your great-aunt’s backyard in July with no air conditioning is not the dream venue.
Set a Budget (That You Will Immediately Want to Ignore)Sure, you start with a number in mind. Then, you discover that flowers cost more than a used car, and suddenly, you're Googling “DIY centerpieces” at 2 a.m. Your planner will help keep you on track—and talk you out of those 400 floating candles that seem like a great idea until you realize they’re a fire hazard.
Enjoy Being Engaged! Seriously, don’t let wedding planning become a second job. Go on date nights, enjoy the non-chaotic version of your relationship, and take a moment to soak it all in. And if at any point you feel overwhelmed, just remember: you’re not alone—your planner is here, with color-coded spreadsheets and emergency chocolate, ready to make this process fun.
Ready to get started? Let’s plan the wedding of your dreams—without the stress (related regrets).
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